Many of us quietly build our entire identity on things that can be taken away—career, ministry, marriage, health, influence, even our trauma. In this honest conversation, J. Warner Wallace shares how retiring from decades as a detective exposed just how deeply he had rooted his identity in his work, and why that identity shift felt so traumatic. He explains the powerful connection between identity and trauma: trauma reshapes how we see ourselves, but identity shifts themselves are also traumatic.
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Ron Richter
September 10, 2026 at 8:47 am
I get the “identity” concept but not so much the trauma. Several years after I retired from 40 years in Silicon Valley high-tech, I realized this career was more like a “drug addiction”. So when it ended, I was in withdrawal looking for another “drug” to replace it with the same addictive “experience”. I developed the website “www.christiandecisions.com” which kept me busy for a while, but I continue to try and “listen” for signs of what God’s wants me to do, even though I understand God does not “need” anything from me.